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Finals are coming up and of course -- there is a shit storm of work they are dumping suddenly on us. THANKS.  Oh thanks so fucking much.

Meanwhile, I'm becoming cynical and apathetic.
 I'm not even in my 20s yet  (I've still got another month before I'm 20, dammit) and I'm starting to sound like a jaded divorcee with a drinking/nicotine problem.

WHERE IS THE INNOCENT HOPE OF YOUTH? Well, I guess, I ... don't have it. D:

Date: 2009-11-12 06:11 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarlet-carsons.livejournal.com
I don't think I've ever met an innocent, hopeful youth. :

tiniest violin... nobody *~*understands*~* me!!

Date: 2009-11-13 06:28 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] whiskerslily.livejournal.com
yeah, you're right about that ...
I am wangsting. Just ignore me while I go cry tears of deepest sorrow on my black velvet sofa.
From: [identity profile] scarlet-carsons.livejournal.com
I'm going to be awkward and reply to the comment that you deleted, since the expectation to be happy all the time is a pet peeve of mine.

People (in general) do seem to have this attitude that you shouldn't show any sort of unhappiness or discomfort, because it makes others uncomfortable. I find that understandable, to a degree, but when people expect you to be cheerful most of the time because, god forbid, you're harshing their squee, it gets really fucking creepy. (I'm one of those people who has a grim expression by default, so people are like, 'smile!' and I'm like, 'I am smiling. >:|') Obviously, smiles are more attractive... But I don't really care about being attractive all the time, and I resent the expectation that I should care.

*dismounts soap box*
From: [identity profile] whiskerslily.livejournal.com
Yes, yes, and yes.
The reason I deleted my original comment was because I kind of get embarrassed about the whole "Smile, dammit!" thing, especially after talking about it. Because a) I always assume that I'm just being a whiny brat and b) because it's always struck me, as you say, as a little weird.
The thing that makes me so embarrassed about this is, I mean, I'm not trying to make people uncomfortable. Most of the time I think I look politely neutral. And when someone comes up to me and says "Did something bad happen? Smile!", it's sort of an underhanded way of saying "GOD WHY DON'T YOU SMILE, YOU'RE DEPRESSING EVERYONE WITH YOUR FACE." That, and it immediately puts me on the spot... where I have to go through the trouble of explaining that I'm "fine, thanks".
*goes back to writing papers*
From: [identity profile] scarlet-carsons.livejournal.com
I think there's definitely something fishy about people's expectations of happiness and normalacy. (Tangentially related, but FWD did a post on pain and public spaces that really highlighted this issue for me.) I do suspect that gender is a factor; women are expected to smile more, because smiling is attractive, and women are expected to be attractive, etc.

Date: 2009-11-13 09:12 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] le-rose-dete.livejournal.com
that was me at 14, it's pretty common.

besides, peppy, squeaky clean people are boring.

Date: 2009-11-13 09:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] whiskerslily.livejournal.com
Yeah. I am probably PMS-ing though, in all honesty.

Peppy people creep me out somtimes.

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